Chronicles of T-student relation

Hold on people! 

This is not a regular post about the age old saga on mannerisms. It's how it shapes up . The way things get moulded up in undergraduate life.

The teacher student relationship is a tenuous thing , shifting in important ways as one moves from high school to undergraduate college to a post graduate program. 

IN SCHOOL

A teacher often a distant and serious , sometimes , a nurturing and indulgent figure . The student is just a child , and the teacher's expectations of him/ her are limited  to good behavior and attention to studies. There are usually well recognized lines of acceptable and unacceptable behavior and crossing these has very clear consequences -you would be

Told in class or hauled up to the principals office .

IN COLLEGE

A lot of our frameworks change. Apart from college rule book ( most often disregarded) , there are few explicit guidelines governing the relationship .some colleges treat teenagers as adults who know their limitations. But the truth is that we struggle with the fuzzy lines and negotiate with them on daily basis . To complicate things college lecturers may be closer to students in age and are likely to be part of the same generational culture . Some treat students as friends outside the classroom and maintain certain informality even inside it . The boundaries keep blurring with progressive addition of qualification.

Seniors:

Students usually model their interactions on their seniors' with the college grapevine serving to provide do s n don't s in relation to each teacher.generally lecturers expect some evidence of interest ,efforts, regular work and of course respect and attention.

Communication:

Rules of engagement vary widely across faculty members and you have to relearn the relation boundaries with each one.

   Kind categories:  some prefer to keep all their interactions in formal places - inside class or college and through formal means such a as written notes , scheduled meetings and properly written emails ( NO SMS lingo ! ) 

   Cool categories:Some may not mind informal mails and SMS asking about reading and assignment .

    Reserved categories: some may provide emails and contact no.s with course outlines and be specific in how they should be contacted, but often these things are not explicitly treated.

You cannot make assumptions about this and try to get a sense of what is acceptable to different lecturers . It's better to check at the beginning of the course the sensitivity of lecturers and students .

P.S. if you want an honest note of appreciation from a lecturer , you'd better have done something in his or her class to earn it! At least make sure that you have not done anything to create a poor impression.

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